How many years is the higher limit between a man & a woman involved in a relationship/marriage? And which works better – if the woman is older or the man is older?
Let me explain : I have a friend who has been living in the US for 12 years now. He is in a relationship with a white American, he’s Indian, who is 11 years his junior (he is 34 and she is 23). He finds it a bit weird, especially knowing the reactions of his family back home. But is 11 years difference too much? And what if she was older to him by 11 years? Would that be weird? What age difference is too big?
Or doesn’t it matter at all as long as the two people involved are sincere? Me personally would find a big age difference difficult to get by. A maximum of 5 years is fine. Ideally I would say, and this only for me, as I am 35 now I would think a girl between the ages of 35 to 30 is ideal. I don’t think I could have a serious relationship or marry someone more than than 5 years younger to me. And I’m also open to having a relationship / marrying a woman older than me – again upto 5 years. I don’t think an age gap larger than 5 would work either. But what do I know? It doesn’t usually work out the way we think it will. Tomorrow I might fall in love with a woman 10 years older than me or 10 years younger. And it could work out too! Who knows right?
I was attracted to a girl 7 years younger last year – not that it worked out but I didn’t find the age gap to be more than what I’d like. She was the only one that young I had considered to being in a relationship with – and it was mostly due to her interest in me. I still think she was too young for me.
I’m curious dear reader, what are your thoughts?
Last night I couldn’t get to sleep, probably because of the fact that I had a nice 2.5 hour deep sleep nap in the late afternoon. Hey, it was breezy and pleasant and I decided to nap! So sleep was hard to come by last night. I watched movies till 2:30 am and then tossed and turned in my bed, swatting off the odd mosquito or two for another 2 hours with the lights off. And when I finally did go to sleep, I had this weird dream.
I was walking into a huge mall, which was semi-deserted as most of the stores were closed on account of being a Sunday (I think) and I was just walking by, browsing the ones that were open and not looking for anything in particular. I met these two really pretty girls and found out that they were fraternal twins. Really interested in making friends with them I spent a long time chatting with them. Then their mom came along and invited me to have tea with them in their hotel suite. The hotel was right next to the mall and I happened to also be staying in the same hotel, so hotel rooms exchanged, I said that I would be for tea in an hour or so. Next I’m in their hotel suite and having coffee, tea and sandwiches with the two hot twins, their younger brother and their mom as well as the manager of the hotel. And – this was surprising – the manager wanted me to autograph his copy of my latest book! Turns out I’m a writer of non-fiction and the last book had done really well.
We spent a long time discussing topics from my book until I thought that it was getting late. The manager excused himself and left and I asked to use the bathroom. While I was washing my hands, one of the twins came to me and asked me to stay for dinner and wouldn’t take no for an answer and I so wanted to stay. So I did. Only thing is their mom had to leave right after dinner along with the son as her brother had met with an accident and she wanted to be at his side. So it was just me & the twins sipping wine in the living room as the night went on. The next thing I remember is waking up in their bed – me and the two babes sleeping on either side of me. All 3 of us naked!
And I woke up for real! Shit, damn, holy fuck!!!