The Spy Who Dumped Me

The Spy Who Dumped Me is a 2018 American action comedy film directed by Susanna Fogel and co-written by Fogel and David Iserson. The film stars Mila Kunis, Kate McKinnon, Justin Theroux, Sam Heughan, Hasan Minhaj and Gillian Anderson and follows two best friends who are chased through Europe by assassins after one of their ex-boyfriends turns out to be a CIA agent.

So that’s the whole premise – cashier Audrey Stockton has been dumped by her boyfriend Drew via text. It’s her birthday and her best friend and roommate, Morgan, tries to cheer her up. However it turns out that Drew is a spy and he calls her and tells her that he dumped her. He asks her not to burn his stuff. At her work, a man she flirted with, Sebastian, and a colleague force her into a van and he proceeds to tell her he is Sebastian Henshaw and that Drew works for the C.I.A. and has gone missing. A man Morgan  slept with turns out to be a rival spy and he and others are out to be after the secret usb drive Drew left hidden in a trophy. Drew turns up and is then murdered.

Audrey & Morgan then go on a manic travel adventure through Europe where they get shot at and have few people that they can trust. Everyone seems to be after the data in the drive, even an old friend of Morgan’s father is killed and a killer pretends to be the friend just to get the drive and including a fashion model/androgynous model cum gymnast. Sebastian happens to be the only one on the girls’s side and helps then at every turn, even going against orders. After they recover the data – which Audrey hid in her vagina ffs! – it turns out that the data is a lot of information which can be used for blackmail governments. Drew turns up alive and in a predictable twist is actually a bad guy and is finally bested by Audrey and Morgan. Sebastian & Audrey kiss and a year later Morgan & Audrey now work as spies and are on a case in Japan with Sebastian.

Predictable, corny, ridiculous, totally contrived story and plotlines. I could predict a lot of things from a mile away and it feels like the jokes are just crude and stupid for the most part. I wonder what the whole point was. 6 outta 10!

Effective Ways To Get Over Trauma

Unfortunately, trauma is an inevitability of the human condition. Even those of us who live charmed and privileged lives can still be affected by a wide range of traumas. A good job, a nice house and an enviable car cannot insulate us from the risk of personal loss, the end of a relationship or falling out with friends or relatives. Sometimes a physical trauma may also accompany an emotional trauma, such as getting into a physical altercation like a fight or a mugging. And even after the physical wounds have healed, the psychological scars remain.

Whatever the nature of your trauma, it’s up to you to try and put it in your rear-view mirror… but that’s far easier said than done. Everyone’s trauma is different and everyone deals with it in different ways, however, if you’re desperate to move on but just don’t know how to, here are some effective strategies to help you to get over your trauma and unshackle yourself from the detrimental effect it has on your daily life…

Seek a positive outcome

A negative can always be turned into something even remotely positive. The loss of a loved one from illness or disease can always be used to raise awareness and help those who are similarly afflicted. The end of a relationship can lead to another, healthier relationship in which you learn from the mistakes of the past. If you have lost a loved one as the result of someone else’s negligence, seek the services of an attorney like Robinette Law’s quality legal services to hold the guilty party to account. If you have been involved in a painful break-up, use this as an opportunity to enjoy being single and getting to know yourself a little better before you rush into something new. No matter how terrible your trauma may be, there’s usually a positive outcome to be found on the other side.

Channel it into something creative

Art can be an extremely therapeutic process. Channeling your anger, hurt, anxieties and frustrations into a creative endeavor can liberate you from your pain and turn something profoundly negative into something that you can feel pride and accomplishment in. Paint a picture, write a short story or channel it into some music. There are no right or wrong ways to do it but channeling your pain into something creative can make it far easier to get over and process.

Avoid the stop-gap solutions which will only make it worse

When we are afflicted by trauma, we can look for a reprieve from our pain in all the wrong places. We can try to find it at the bottom of a bottle of whiskey or in a tub of ice cream. We can try to escape into a party lifestyle or simply into the fictional worlds of movies and video games. While some stop-gap solutions are more harmful than others the best they can do is distract you from your trauma, and the longer you leave it unchecked, the more damage it can do.

Talk about it

Finally, the more you talk about your trauma, the better able you are to cope with it. It stops being a huge, unconquerable leviathan and becomes something more mundane and manageable. While a counsellor or therapist should be the person you talk to, even talking to friends and family about it can help you come to terms with it and eventually overcome it.