Do you hold grudges or do you believe in forgive and forget?
It kind of depends on the situation, the person, the amount of trust I gave them and the level of relationship between us. It’s easier to forgive someone you weren’t that close to or know that well, for some small or even medium size grudges and the reason is because I didn’t know them that well and we weren’t very close either. So it’s hard to stay mad for too long because they didn’t really earn my trust and loyalty and didn’t break trust / loyalty by doing something bad to me. I hope that’s easy to understand; I don’t really expect too much from them in the first place so if they do do something bad then it’s easier for me to forgive as I wasn’t expecting much better from them. However I will definitely hold a grudge against anyone, even if I do not know them well enough or if they don’t know me well enough to pass judgement and cause me problems, spread rumours or try to stop me from progressing.
However from friends and relatives, it’s a different thing. Small issues are fine and no one is perfect and you can’t expect to not have grudges for things that were or were not meant to cause any harm or pain. It’s easier to forgive and forget. But if you have earned my trust and loyalty and, in some cases, love, then when you betray that loyalty & trust I placed on you – you will find me to be a different person than what you normally see! I can’t forgive people who outright stab me in the back and people who mean to cause hurt & suffering. That can also be causing hurt & suffering to someone else who I hold near & dear to my heart. I can’t forgive that either.
So I will never forgive the asshole relative who cheated my dad & my family, the bitch of a cousin who verbally abused me and 2 of my other cousins, some fucking relative I have seen like once or twice in my life and who is spreading vicious rumours about me (and I think 2 other cousins) based on what she thinks is right and who the fuck is she with her golden cunt?, another bitch who cause so much hurt among the rest of the team by spreading vicious rumours about us, colleagues who go out of their way to create problems for you so they can benefit at work (what are you, fucking monsters?), a couple of guys who beat up my friend during an argument and a few others. Damn, I am so worked up right now, I need a cold drink. To all these people – fuck off!
Prompt from the Daily Post at WordPress.com.