Oct 31 2010
Along with being a very tiresome and emotionally draining week in terms of work, it’s been a week of ups & downs in terms of my personal relationships. Both situations happen to be with friends I thought I was really close with – both girls.
One is a woman who is a colleague but who is leaving the organization within the next 7 days. I became close with her a few months back and stupid me, I confided in her and opened up a lot of my inner-most feelings to her about my life, failures & stuff which I should not have. Although she came into my life with the full force of a hammer on nail, I now regret wasting my time talking to her all this while. I’ve never met her in person and it’s a good thing. She has turned out to be selfish, immature, petty and spiteful. Good riddance to bad rubbish. My final messages to her (I can’t be bothered to waste energy on a call) came last night after a exchange of smses and it’s over. Can’t wait for her to be a thing of the past!
The other is a friend who has been one from 2005 or abouts. We became very close during 2006 when we worked out of the same office for the year and she is a very good friend and a special person. A few weeks ago a misunderstanding between us drove a wedge between me & her. Things were left unsaid and I choose to stop talking to her. After a couple of weeks she tried to reach out to me but it wasn’t working out. Yesterday afternoon she was on Gtalk and we chatted a bit. I told her about how what she did made me feel. She called me immediately and apologized and we talked about what happened. I found out why she had to do what she did and it’s perfectly understandable once all the points were on the table. Her fault – not letting me know the issues, my fault – not asking what the issues were or indeed if there was an issue.
Once I said that I was ok, tears filled my eyes and hers (I could tell and she admitted as such) and we were close friends again. Or did we ever stop? I told her how much I have missed her and even though I haven’t seen her in so long, those 4 weeks of not talking were the worst. She said so too and in view of our renewed friendship, I’m taking her out to lunch sometime next week. It will be good to see her and I’m looking forward to that.
One friendship (if I do call it that) lost, dead & buried and another one strengthened after getting bent! I’d say that it was an emotional week.