Three things you want in a relationship
- Companionship – when I say companionship, I mean you want to do things together. And not just sex. But actually just lying together in bed and talking. Or even lying together in bed not talking but just being comfortable lying naked in each other’s arms. Wanting to do stuff together like going for a walk, driving on a road trip, watching a movie, going out shopping with each other, cooking meals together, sitting out on the deck on a nice night sky and sipping wine or beer or whatever and staring at the stars.
- Love – who doesn’t want to be loved. I want true love when you really can’t be for long without the person you love. You go ahead and do your own things but you miss the lover and you can’t wait to be with her and share your experiences of the day with her. I want that kind of love. I want love that lasts for a lifetime. A life partner, a soulmate and a love of a lifetime. Yes, I am hitting the cliches but they are all true and from the heart.
- Loyalty – I can be really loyal and loyal to a fault. I won’t like anyone saying anything bad about you and I will defend you till the day that I die. I want that kind of loyalty. I want the kind of loyalty that bests everything else. And I want to be deserving of such loyalty.
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Well it’s been a strange and long, confusing week. We are having some changes at the office, some that are tremendously shocking and it will change the mood and atmosphere at the office. I am surprised that this much has happened in this week and I still have a day left to go to work for the week!
I guess the first three days working that dreadful 4:30 am to 1:30 pm shift took a lot outta me. I am 41 and no spring chicken. Those kinda hours is for younger folk. No sooner than I get back to my regular evening shifts (I went in at 7pm yesterday) and I get hit with these changes. I dunno how much change is good for you. Change is good but when it is this much in so little time, it’s bound to have repercussions. Things haven’t been all good these days.
People behaving strangely, all kind of funny stories around and stuff that I can’t keep up with. Also with people I thought were decent, turns out that they aren’t.
Do You Need to De-Clutter Your Life?
I think so and not as much as I needed to earlier, like a 3 to 4 years ago. At that time I had a bunch of stuff lying around or stored in cupboards and shelves that I did not need. I had to get rid of several old books, magazines and other stuff. I also had lots of cds that I could get rid off as I had ripped all of the songs into mp3s and saved them on my hard disk and backed them up on two external hard drives as well.
I also had a surplus of old batteries and stuff. Now, I had a computer chair in one corner with a bunch of stuff like old books and shit that is just collecting dust and lying there. I need to get rid of it and see what I need to save from the stuff lying on it. My inbuilt cupboard could also use a cleaning and seeing what I can get rid off. I had some dvds in there that are cheap knockoffs so I could get rid of them and upgrade the ones that I want.
Not much else. The area underneath my bed could some good cleaning up. I see dust bunnies under there. And that’s about it. Oh yeah, in the spare/common room I have a bunch of old clothes, mostly shirts that I can no longer fit into or that are too old that I need to get rid off. Other than that, not much else.
Prompt from The Learning Network at The New York Times
Yo people! I am tired. Beyond tired. For three days this week, I have to work in a 4:30 am to 1:30 pm shift. This is not a shift for people my age. I am so tired and I still have to go to work tomorrow morning at around 4 am so I can be there by 4:30 am! At that time of the day there isn’t any traffic and hardly any cars around anyway.
So Sunday night I tried to go to bed at 10 pm so I can get 4 hours sleep but I just couldn’t get any. I switched off the lights and closed my eyes but sleep never came. It was also hot as a furnace that night. I ended up not sleeping for over 24 hours and reached home at 2 pm and went to sleep for 3 hours or so. Then at 10 pm I went back to sleep for 3 more hours and at 2am got some coffee and was online for a while until I had to shave and shower and catch an Uber.
Today after work was done, I went to get an early lunch at around 12:15 pm, as I was feeling very hungry having had breakfast at 7:30 am, and lingered around for a while. I spent 30 minutes talking shop to a guy who is moving to our process in a few days and he wanted some details. Then I picked up an Amazon package that I had delivered to my office address and went to catch an Uber back and came home by 2:15 pm and slept till 7 pm.
I was going through some old photos that I had uploaded in one of my Flickr accounts. My first Flickr account actually. I had uploaded pics from my Motorola Razor and then my Blackberry Curves and Blackberry Bold in it. I spent a good hour going through those pics and they brought a smile to my face. I’ve decided to showcase some of those pics here (though I may have posted them in my old Blogspot blog).
First up is an odd to an iconic beer – the Kingfisher. Granted that they are no longer my first choice when it comes to beer (or second or third or ….6th even) but they are still an icon. I spent many years drinking these beers until we started getting the Carlsbergs, Tuborgs, Millers and Heinekens. Nowadays I only drink Kingfisher if there are no other options left but still, I do value them. Here are two pics I took back in 2006.
I have just renewed my website URL for the 11th year running. Awakeanddreaming.org is booked for the next year, 365 days from November 14th. I first booked this URL back in November of 2006 just a couple of months after I made the move from Thrikkakara to this apartment in Kacheripady. A friend of my cousin had started his own internet website service and webspace reselling business and I contacted him to set me up with a URL. I called him up and he asked me which url I wanted and I checked out a few.
It’s been over a decade so I can’t remember exactly all of them but I think I checked out and came up with 4-5 final choices :
I finally decided to get awakeanddreaming but couldn’t get the .com version. So it was a toss up between awakeanddreaming.net or awakeanddreaming.org and I should have taken the .net but they had a discount for the .org URLs and I though, what the heck. I remember I had to pay him through the money order option for the first couple of years as netbanking was still new for us.
And like that this name stays on.
I dunno about you but I am addicted to Social Media – to the point that I prefer to stay indoors and not be very social and instead connect via my laptop or my smartphone.
Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, WordPress, Instagram – these are the big four that I am usually always online at when I am not at work. Sometimes at work I can still check Facebook and Twitter. And ofcourse Flickr has all my photos that I shoot on a regular basis. I have an on and off love affair with Pintrest and even went a whole year or more without access it. But I am back on it and I love it again. I have two Tumblr accounts – one for general stuff and the other for just Star Trek – but I haven’t used it in about 3 years.
Something that is not the norm as far as Social Media is concerned is 500px which is a photo sharing website and it is awesome but they recently reduced the free upload option to 7 a week instead of the 20 pics a week which came with the free account. The payment for a year, with a discount that I have is almost $60 and since I live in India that is a big amount to pay for uploading pics, especially since I haven’t sold any yet.
Youtube is ofcourse my jam! It has replaced tv for me and I love it for the vlogs, the professional done channels and the music, especially the live concert clips which is amazing for me.
What’s the Most Memorable Thing You Ever Got in the Mail?
I only started getting things in the mail in the past few years, like 2011 or 2012. And it’s only since 2015 that it has been on a regular basis. So a couple of hard drives, 3 I think, 3 phones and a bunch of other things from juice and snacks to mugs and decorative stuffs for the house.
But among all of these the best things that I have gotten in the mail – or courier/carrier – are my Star Trek starship models. Specifically the ones that Eaglemoss makes as part of the Official Star Trek Starship collection. These are things I dream about and marvel for hours and hours on my tv screen or on my computer. To have them in my hands and displayed on my shelves is a big dream come true.
So the most memorable thing I ever got in the mail is the iconic USS Enterprise NCC-1701-D. The one that you see in 7 seasons of Star Trek The Next Generation and the movie Star Trek : Generations. Which is probably the best of all starships out there in the known universe. My excitement and pure joy still amazes me when I look back at the video of me unboxing it.
Prompt from The Learning Network at The New York Times
Well I am back to the evening shifts as of yesterday. I think I prefer the evening shifts for this process and company because I usually will get enough time to relax and rest, watch some tv for a while before I have to go to work. Day shifts take a lot outta me as I end up having to stay back at the office for 10,11,12, 13 or 14 hours at a stretch and then having to come to work at 8:30 am or 9:30 am still tired and sleepy.
This Monday & Tuesday as I had the morning shift I had more time yesterday as a)I left the office early as I wasn’t feeling very well and left at 5 pm and b) I was working a 5:30 pm yesterday. So I had time to head to Lulu Mall for a 1pm movie (Thor : Ragnarok) and then have a late lunch before heading to work and reaching a half hour early. The movie was good and the mall wasn’t as crowded on a Wednesday as it is on the weekend but still a lot of people were in it.
After the movie – and I just reached there in time to deposit my bag at the counter and buy popcorn and a large Pepsi and stepped in as they started the commercials. Ofcourse, I just had to get a seat next to two lovey dovey people who talked a bit during the movie and even hugged at one point – at the interval and I happened to stretch and look that side and then quickly looked away! Can’t stare at it for too long, just like the sun.
Do You Hang Out in the Park?
Not really. Infact, never. But I wish I had a nice park nearby where I can go and hand out but I would want plenty of shade and it would have to be a cool breezy day. There is only one proper park near me and one a little further away and both are not places that I would want to spend too much time in.
I guess if we had a lot of greenery and there were some nice benches or seats where one can relax for a long time (I don’t want to sit on a hard bench and hurt my bum) but I wouldn’t mind it as long as I don’t sweat a lot as it’s too hot and humid. I would take a good book and sit there for a while. If I had a dog, I would want a dog park near me so I can throw a ball for him/her to fetch or throw a frisbee for him/her to catch.
I used to go to a walkway on Marine Drive which is concrete and inlayed blocks of bricks with some seating and benches here and there. There is a small mall next to it and you can either sit there in their food court’s air-conditioned seating – better seats and a table in front of you and food or drink and be near the walkway and stare at the Arabian sea – or sit on one of the seats out in the open in the walkway. Both are enjoyable.
Prompt from The Learning Network at The New York Times
How Good Are You at Time Management?
Not that good most of the time. I used to be able to do it a lot better but at times I feel like I am pretty bad at it. I guess it’s because I do not prioritize properly and end up doing a lot of things at once and then struggling to finish stuff at the time that it needs to be done. And I can also procrastinate a bunch.
So I guess I should do better in that regard and I can be better organized and get things done in a faster and more efficient method. And it will be less stressful and painful for me. One day, I will manage things better.
Until that time, I will struggle.
Prompt from The Learning Network at The New York Times
Do you speak a second language? What inspired you to learn it?
I speak three languages. English and Malayalam fluently and I struggle with Hindi, but I can understand a lot more than I can speak it. So that’s three. I cannot read or write Malayalam as I never learned how to. That’s what I speak on a regular basis but Hindi hasn’t been a language I speak on a daily basis or even a once in a while thing.
I wish I could speak a lot more of Hindi and be more fluent. I wish I could speak several other Indian languages. I wish I could speak French – my fav language – , Italian, Russian and many other languages. KLINGON! Oh I wish I could swear in Klingon – it would be glorious! I want to be able to speak to anyone in the world in the language that they grew up speaking in.
I think I will try to learn Klingon. Subtitles? We don’t need no stinking subtitles!
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It has been so long, longer than I can even remember since I just went into a cafe with a laptop and sat there for a couple of hours browsing through the internet and drinking coffee. I think the last time I did that was more than 4 or 5 years ago?
I used to take my laptop – not my 2 year old Dell but my previous laptop which was a Lenovo – with me to many places. Mostly to one of the cafes I used to frequent. The two Cafe Coffee Days in the city, or Coffee Cube which has free Wifi or the Barista that shut down a few years ago – they also had free Wifi. I used to order a cup or two of coffee, a sandwich or a muffin, maybe a small bottle of water and for two hours or so, be online. It’s the same as doing it from home but you get better coffees.
I kinda miss that time. I loved doing that. I’ve even taken my laptop to a couple of restaurants and to a bar a few times. Didn’t use it much there but atleast a half hour or so. Which was fun. But coffee in a coffeeshop and free Wifi go hand in hand. There is one place that has decent food and has free Wifi – the others have closed – and I think I will pick a Saturday and go there with my Dell.
I am beside myself with glee. Well not glee exactly. It is a sadden sort of happiness, if I can put it that way. Today, after a morning shift, I am at home in the evening at 6:17 pm and sitting in my room a few minutes later. This never happens to me for the past several months. Usually I hate working day shifts – meaning 8:30 am to 5:30 pm or 9:30 am to 6:30 pm – because I never get to leave the office on time.
There is always something or the other, some work or the other than comes up and I stay back for 2, 3 or 4 hours. And I come home late and go straight to bed, watch a little tv and fall asleep with the lights still on. I also end up waking up in the middle of the night, like around 2 or 3 and realize that the lights are still on and my laptop is still on and I switch everything off and get back to sleep because I need to be up by 6:00 am.
But yesterday I left by 6:15 am because a college was on his last working day there and I wanted to speak to him for a while. With the rains and it being rush hour at 6:30 pm, I took almost 90 minutes to get home. Today I took less than 30 minutes to get home and made a large coffee and some Oreo type cookies and enjoying being online. This is new. This is sweet. Simple yet so enjoyable.
Now that is some rain! Last Friday and then last night and today. It’s been raining since mid-afternoon. It was raining cats and dogs and there was thunder and lightning in the middle of the day. It let up at around 6pm, enough for me to try and make it back home in an Uber.
Some areas of the city haven’t seen that much rain but in Kakkanad it was pretty heavy. I finished my work at 5:30 pm (having come in for work for the 8:30 am shift) and spent sometime having a cup of coffee with a colleague who is leaving us and it was his last day in the office. After that it was down to the rain and looking for an Uber.
We braved the traffic and it took much longer for him to get to my office gate and for us to get on the way to my apartment. And it may have cost me a lot more but I just wanted to get back home and relax in my lungi and in my room and have some black coffee sitting at the laptop and listening to Blackhawk – a country music band.
Went into McDonald’s (Vennala) this evening on the way back from work and saw that they had new stuff on the menu. Sweet! thought I. But nay….I was disappointed soon.
The Cheesy Italiano Chicken – it is enough for Italy to declare war on India. A dry chicken patty with some melted mozzarella and what looks like Italian dry powdered herbs. Or McD’s stole some oregano and chilli flake packets from Dominos and powered them even further and put it on this patty with a couple of small pieces of onions. Voila – instant Italian classic…NOT!
It was kinda bland and disappointing. Bun was multigrain or multiseasame or something stolen from Subway. It totally felt like something from Subway without all the options for toppings and sauces. This is part of McDonald’s India’s new “Flavours without Borders” menu – More like Borders without Flavours!! They describe the burger as – “juicy chicken patty, sprinkled with aromatic Italian herbs, layered with a rich and creamy onion-cheese sauce and shredded onions in a square toasted bun.” Seriously??? The preparation looks more like some guy in Bombay who was smoking some fine weed and coming up what he thought was “Italian”.
They also had a new McFlurry – Phirni McFlurry a rice pudding dessert prepared to perfection with delicate flavours of rich condensed milk along with rice bits. It was ok but not as good as the others that they have!
So I am working today, a Saturday. Has the world gone insane?
No, not really. As I had to take an emergency leave on Wednesday due to getting hurt and swelling just above the knee, we had to cancel the training for my current training batch of new hire employees. That was to have been day 1 of their training on the product & process. So we have to work this Saturday to compensate. I would have just taken a leave if the batch wasn’t scheduled to finish their training in 10 working days.
So I work today but I will be taking Sunday and Monday off and then next weekend I will be working on Saturday and only taking Sunday off. Bummer! I wanted to do the 1 day weekend thingy this week but my trainees have to go home to their hometowns and some of them live a little far away so they need two days off this week. Oh well! I guess I will go out tomorrow, I could use a haircut. Actually, I am over due for a haircut.
And then maybe I will go for a pizza or a couple of beers. I dunno. If I feel lazy on Sunday then I will go out on Monday morning. I will be working evening next week so that’s something.