Do you hold grudges or do you believe in forgive and forget?
I think it depends on the situation. If it is something minor I think for me forgiving is easier and perhaps in a little while forgetting as well. Sometimes silly little fights are not really worth it and life is too short to stay that mad for so long. However it depends on what was done. Betraying and insulting and abusing and going behind your back is something I do not take lightly.
I have yet to forget about certain things that relatives have done. In one case, the person is dead, has been dead for over 10 years but he was a real asshole. Others are still alive and in one I have forgiven but not forgotten and the other – NEVER! Similarly people once friends and who have betrayed you are harder to forgive.
I know it’s not easy to carry on with a grudge but in some cases it is warranted. Like a former friend and colleague, who for a short time was really nice to me but who turned out to be a real bitch! Fuck you, I don’t need your BS in my life. I won’t forgive or forget the crap this person pulled. So screw her. Similarly a few others too.
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