3 Tips For A Happier Marriage

Although I am not married I have some idea about what I would do and what my spouse should do to ensure that we have a happy marriage. It’s all about adjustments and compromise and sharing things.

1. Sharing of duties and errands. Its no fun to maintain the house. Unless we live in a Star Trek style futuristic world, homes have to be cleaned, dusted & maintained. Make sure each of you share in the chores around the house. For me I know I would do the laundry and trash, maybe the wife can do the folding and dusting (I do have asthma). Things like that make it a lot more easier to manage. Someone pays the bills and another does the out of house errands.

2. Be each other’s confidant & best friend. The best marriages are usually the ones where each spouse relies on each other for many things and are the rock for the other. Involve each other in your day and your feelings. Share your pain, glory and achievements.

3. Have a hobby together. Cooking & barbecuing? Running, jogging or walking? Going for long walks or drives? Wanna play games at home like pool, Scrable or cards? Share the same movies & music? The more things you do together, the easier it would be find “your thing”. Raising dogs and cats together? Some couples who are awesome together usually have a few activities that they enjoy and look forward to doing as a couple.

For sure being part of a successful marriage is tough but you can find ways to improve what you have.


4 Legged Gardener

I don’t remember the exact years but I am pretty sure it was around 1990 or so that my cousins in Mattancherry got a dog named Snoopy. Snoopy was a pointer and perhaps the only Pointer I have ever seen in my life and they are kind of a rare breed to have where I live.

Pointers are used to find game for hunters, and are considered by gundog enthusiasts to be one of the finest breeds of its type; however, unlike most other pointing breeds, its purpose is to point, not retrieve game.

Funny thing about Snoopy is she was a yard dog, meaning she had a kennel at one end of the property. next to the gate and in the late evenings, just before dinner, my cousins or uncle would let her free to roam the yard. And we don’t know when but she developed a strange hobby – she would dig up some plants in the yard and then dig a hole elsewhere and then replant plant them! It was crude and messy but she always did it. We couldn’t stop laughing at this 4 legged gardener that has blossomed in the nights where she was probably bored by herself.

I will never forget that and how happy she was when her humans found her handiwork the next day. She had that proud look on her face. As if saying “I did that”!

Prompt from 30 Days of April Writing Prompts at The SitsGirls

3 More Weird Laws In South Africa

1. In South Africa, there are several laws outlining permissible behavior between civilians and bears. This is odd considering that no bear has naturally lived in sub-Saharan Africa for the last 1.5 million years. The only bear species known to have inhabited this part of the world is the extinct ursid agriotherium africanum, according to Quora. One law states that in South Africa, people are prohibited from bringing bears to public or private beaches, according to Prezi.com. Bear wrestling is also illegal in the country, according to Nairaland.com.

2. South African youth are subject to some laws when it comes to physical contact while wearing bathing suits. In South Africa it’s illegal for young people in bathing suits to sit less than 12 inches apart, according to Exitzero.us.

3. South African marriage law recognizes three different types of marriages; civil marriages, customary marriages, which recognize polygamy, and civil unions, according to Mg.co.za. Some legislators are pushing for a law that would require a man’s first wife to consent to polygamous marriage.

Anna (2019)

Anna (stylized as AN?A) is a 2019 action thriller film written, produced and directed by Luc Besson. The film stars Sasha Luss as the eponymous assassin, alongside Luke Evans, Cillian Murphy, Helen Mirren, and Alexander Petrov.

Arsenal 0 Liverpool 3

Liverpool thrust themselves firmly back into the battle for a place in the Premier League’s top four as they outclassed abject Arsenal at Emirates Stadium.Chelsea’s shock thrashing at home to West Brom earlier in the day opened the door for Liverpool – and Jurgen Klopp’s men burst straight through it in style with a victory that leaves them in fifth, only two points behind Thomas Tuchel’s side. The only surprise was that it took dominant Liverpool so long to make their superiority count. They finally got the breakthrough they deserved after 64 minutes when Diogo Jota headed Trent Alexander-Arnold’s brilliant delivery past Arsenal goalkeeper Bernd Leno moments after he replaced Andy Robertson.

It was not only the decisive moment of the contest but also a timely reminder of the quality Alexander-Arnold possesses at a time when England manager Gareth Southgate feels he can do without him. Liverpool doubled their lead four minutes later when Mohamed Salah took advantage of poor defending by Arsenal’s Gabriel then slid a cool finish through Leno’s legs. Jota was the beneficiary of more good work from Alexander-Arnold when he slammed home his second from close range with eight minutes left – by then, though, the game had become a formality. The only positive about this Arsenal performance was the fact they kept Liverpool out for 64 minutes – although that was more down to the Premier League champions’ lack of cutting edge up than especially good work by the Gunners.

The hosts were dreadful and fortunate not to be beaten far more heavily. This was miserable stuff from Arsenal. The only work Liverpool goalkeeper Alisson, complete with extravagant new moustache, had to do all night was clutch a straightforward shot from substitute Cedric Soares in the second half. Yes, Arsenal lost influential left-back Kieran Tierney right on half-time, but that was no excuse for what Mikel Arteta’s side served up. They offered no punch in attack, no fight in midfield and were eventually overwhelmed in defence. Arsenal saved themselves by coming from three goals down to earn a point in their last league game at West Ham but there was never the slightest hope of a comeback against Liverpool. They sit in ninth place, four points adrift of Everton having played two games more, and much now rests on their Europa League quarter-final against Slavia Prague.

A Temple Of Rainbow

What song from your childhood reminds you a lot about those years? One of them for me is Rainbow’s Temple Of The King. For me it is Ronnie & Ritchie’s best song that they have performed on and my introduction to each of them. I think it was on a compilation album on cassette that I first heard of the band and then soon proceeded to get my own copy of a Rainbow best off. This was my favourite song of Rainbow and still remains so.

Off the band’s 1975 debut album Ritchie Blackmore’s Rainbow, it is the quintessential Rainbow song, boasting Ronnie James Dio’s vocals and Ritchie’s epic and instantly recognizable riff and the cream on the top is that haunting guitar solo. We also have Micky Lee Soule on piano, mellotron, clavinet, organ, Craig Gruber on bass & the late awesome Gary Driscoll on drums. Although the song & album was released in 1975, I first heard it as a 11 year old in the summer of 1988. It has stayed with me since then.

Funnily enough the solo actually reminds of some Indian movie music that I must have seen in the early 80s. Which is odd but still the song retains a high position is my list of favourite songs.

Rum & Pepsi

So usually I am a vodka guy when it comes to harder liquor – because vodka is delicious – and enjoy drinking a few but rum and Coke or Pepsi is also delicious. While I usually drink Old Monk which is an Indian rum, I have had more Bacardi White rum more often in the last 10 years.

Light rums, also referred to as “silver” or “white” rums, in general, have very little flavor aside from a general sweetness. Light rums are sometimes filtered after aging to remove any colour. The majority of light rums come from Puerto Rico. Their milder flavors make them popular for use in mixed drinks, as opposed to drinking them straight. Light rums are included in some of the most popular cocktails including the Mojito and the Daiquiri.

While I love cocktails, I find that mostly I just like the rum with Coke or Pepsi with a few chunks of ice. That in itself is delicious enough for me. Today I had some Bacardi white, which I haven’t had in over a year, while I ate some sausages for starters and a pizza for lunch in a bar.

Weird Laws In South Africa

1.In South Africa, it is illegal for children and teens under the age of 16 to show public displays of affection. When the law came out in 2008, thousands of South African teenagers protested, posting online photos of themselves breaking this law. The Sexual Offences Act has a clause that makes children under 16 liable to be criminally charged if they are caught kissing or touching one another. Over 20,000 teens pledged to continue this protest until the law was abolished.

2. In South Africa, if an unmarried woman has a child, she automatically assumes all rights and responsibilities for that child. The same is not true for unmarried men. If an unmarried man has a child, he only takes responsibility for the child if he consents to it, or was in a domestic partnership with the mother at the time of birth.

3. Due to the heavy traffic in South Africa, a recent law makes it illegal for vehicles weighing more than 9,000 kilograms (nearly 20,000 pounds) to be on the roads during rush hour. Specifically, heavy vehicles cannot be on the roads between 5 p.m. and 8 p.m., or between 6 a.m. and 9 a.m.

4. If you are ever driving in South Africa and a herder and his cattle want to cross the road, you must yield to them. Herders have the right of way on the road, says Ingenie.ca. There is a limit to the rule, though. The animals must be donkeys, goats, pigs, ostriches, mules or horses.

5. In South Africa, any person who owns a TV that receives a broadcast signal must pay for a TV license. People can own a TV without a license, but they must have their signal disconnected and pay inspection fees to prove they’ve done so.

A Slice Of Mango

One of the drinks that I do like to drink, especially on a hot afternoon, is Tropicana’s Slice. Which is a thick mango based soft drink. Tropicana claims that there 600 ml bottle is having mango pulp equivalent to single strength mango pulp. I’m sure most of it is water and sugar I guess.

It is awesome to drink cold. I have had a couple of them in the last couple of days at the office as due to Covid-19 they have the air-conditioners at low. So at 3 pm, which is when I take my first break, I went to the cafeteria to get my lunch and a drink. When I see Slice, I pick it up from the fridge and drink it at my table and boy is it refreshing. And uplifting because it is cold and mango.

So when I get tired of Coke, 7Up, Sprite & Peps I tend to go towards the fruit drinks and I will pick up a Slice if I can.

April Fool Origins

April Fools’ Day—celebrated on April 1 each year—has been celebrated for several centuries by different cultures, though its exact origins remain a mystery. While its exact history is shrouded in mystery, the embrace of April Fools’ Day jokes by the media and major brands has ensured the unofficial holiday’s long life.

Some historians speculate that April Fools’ Day dates back to 1582, when France switched from the Julian calendar to the Gregorian calendar, as called for by the Council of Trent in 1563. In the Julian Calendar, as in the Hindu calendar, the new year began with the spring equinox around April 1. People who were slow to get the news or failed to recognize that the start of the new year had moved to January 1 and continued to celebrate it during the last week of March through April 1 became the butt of jokes and hoaxes and were called “April fools.” These pranks included having paper fish placed on their backs and being referred to as “poisson d’avril” (April fish), said to symbolize a young, easily caught fish and a gullible person.

Historians have also linked April Fools’ Day to festivals such as Hilaria (Latin for joyful), which was celebrated in ancient Rome at the end of March by followers of the cult of Cybele. It involved people dressing up in disguises and mocking fellow citizens and even magistrates and was said to be inspired by the Egyptian legend of Isis, Osiris and Seth. There’s also speculation that April Fools’ Day was tied to the vernal equinox, or first day of spring in the Northern Hemisphere, when Mother Nature fooled people with changing, unpredictable weather.

Working On A Smaller Laptop

While I love working on a laptop compared to a clunky desktop – which is what I usually use for my work – I think I don’t like smaller laptops. When I say smaller I mean smaller than 15.6 inch laptops. I have had 3 laptops in my life for my personal use and all 3 have been 15.6 inch.

One of the biggest advantages that a 14-inch laptop has over its 15-inch brethren is size. A 14-inch laptop is generally smaller which makes it more compact. This in turn makes it much easier to carry around. In other words, a 14-inch laptop is ideal for those to travel about a lot and tend to work on the go. Of course, with such a compact form factor, it can be hard for manufacturers to place powerful hardware and efficiently cool at the same time. As such. 14-inch laptops may have a slight performance disadvantage over larger laptops.

But it is difficult for a few things like Outlook and even typing as the keys are in all the wrong places. And the stupid Fn key is where CTRL is supposed to be. I mean, what the actual fuck? Several other things as well. It should be 15.6 inch and nothing a cm less. C’mon man!

What Is A Falooda?

Falooda is a delicious dessert drink and a perfect summer treat! This is a big part of my childhood summers spent in Mattancherry with my cousins. After a day of playing football or cricket, a shower and a quick walk to a nearby juice shop for a falooda was a great way to cool off. This refreshing recipe is made of layers of rose syrup, vermicelli, basil seeds, sweetened milk, ice cream and dry fruits. It is sure to satisfy all your summery sweet cravings!!

Falooda or rabri faluda is an Indian version of a cold dessert made with noodles. It has origins in the Persian dish faloodeh, variants of which are found across West, Central, and South Asia. Traditionally it is made by mixing rose syrup, vermicelli, and sweet basil seeds with milk, often served with ice cream. The vermicelli used for preparing falooda is made from wheat, arrowroot, cornstarch, or sago.

Faloodeh dessert came to Medieval India with the many Central Asian merchants and dynasties that settled in the Indian subcontinent in the 16th to 18th century. The present form of falooda was developed in the Mughal Empire and spread with its conquests. The Persianate rulers who succeeded from the Mughals patronized the dessert with their own adaptations, specifically in Hyderabad Deccan and the Carnatic areas of present-day India. This dessert is now a major part of Pakistani and Bangladeshi culture, specially served on Islamic holidays, weddings and other occasions. It is also a well known part of Sri Lankan modern culture.

More Than 40 Winks

Have you changed your routine or habits: skincare, fitness, eating or sleeping?

I have been trying to sleep more and relax more. See when I am awake and at home I am either in front of the laptop, work desktop or watching tv. I sometimes stay awake for long hours online and then watch a movie or 2-3 episodes of a tv show I like. I have decided that I need to get more hours of sleep a day. Sometimes it is hard but we need to take care of ourselves.

So starting this week – Sunday included I have tried to get more zzzz and see if that makes a difference in me feeling better overall. I can already feel some difference and I am happy for that.


Cannot Live Without…

Share what you can’t live without.

I cannot live without the internet. High speed broadband and wifi and phone data. I know I was born in 1976 and only got started using the internet, infrequently, in 1997. And it was 2006 before I got internet connectivity at home. So I haven’t spent a significant amount of time alive without it.

However, the way that life has been and is right now I cannot imagine living without it. I wake up, switch on my laptop and then go to the bathroom for a leak and brushing my teeth and washing my face. I then go get coffee and come back to my bedroom to find the laptop all connected to the wifi and awaiting my fingers to enter the Windows password. Coffee drinking and internet browsing is the best way to start the day. I am online until 5 minutes before I have to leave – if I am working from home it is always on.

Your internet is used for a lot of things on the computer and phone. It is my music database (Youtube), social media and connectivity with friends and relatives (Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp and Twitter) my entertainment box (Youtube) and also movies (Netflix, Amazon Prime & a few others). I also use it to watch sports (mainly to live stream football) and other events. I use it to book cabs for my travel and deliver food, clothes and groceries. And a host of other things on Amazon & Flipkart.

How could I now possibly stay away from it?

Prompt from Prompt from 31 Blog Post Ideas for March at A Grande Life

First Day Back @ WFO

So first day back at the office. I step in by 11:40 am and leave by 9:45 pm. It has been a hectic day at work. We were adding 125 new employees to our office and they had to get their training in two slots. 75 in the 12:30 pm to 9:30 pm shift and the remaining in the 9:30 pm to 6:30 am shift. One trainer was working remotely from Hyderabad and two of us were here in Cochin.

There were so many problems and so many hiccups. And it took all of today to sort things out. Tomorrow we are getting two laptops so we can conduct the training on them. We will use a combination of Webex and face to face (while maintaining social distancing) and wearing mask. So mask to mask. It will be interesting if nothing else.

I prefer working from home. I felt that this should have continued but then…..Anyways, I am very tired as I barely ate anything and took a small break for a juice and a snack. When I came home I ordered from McDonalds for a very late dinner. Now it’s off to bed.