It can sometimes be the case that our confidence shatters. While we might be relatively strong people, certain events can harm your ability to believe in yourself. But luckily, confidence is a malleable thing, and can once again work to help you in everyday life. It might be that you’re coming out of a toxic relationship, a bad workplace, or perhaps a mistake that cost you more than you imagined.
It might be that you have been living in a manner that has eroded your confidence over time. Perhaps you’ve slipped up. For example, those who go cold turkey from alcohol often feel immense shame if they once again decide to sample some. There are many reasons why people lose their confidence, and to pretend as though this isn’t possible is willfully ignoring reality. All of us can do with some help from time to time, and sometimes, that person who’ll help is you.
With the following advice, we hope to help you to this end. It might take weeks, it might take months, but one thing is for sure, you will be better off:
Seek Closure From The Incident
Whatever denigrated your confidence in the first instance might still be affecting you without your current knowledge. For example, it might be that coming out of a toxic relationship has started to truly influence your friendships, and perhaps you are best suited seeing a counselor or therapist to help you talk through your issues. In some cases, even PTSD can be experienced due to abuse, despite many thinking it’s only a symptom of war. It might be that you were injured at work, and despite the positive professions of your previous employer you know that he hadn’t provided you with adequate safety equipment. It might be that trial lawyers could help you seek the compensation you deserve, and through that seek closure.
Start Small Again
Humans are rational creatures to an extent, but there’s also a subconscious world that can often affect our emotions, beliefs and responses to the past. If you’ve experienced something that has shattered your confidence, it can be natural to want to hide away from the world. It might be that you spent plenty of time in your apartment now, and even feel anxious when heading to collect groceries. It’s not uncommon for people to develop agoraphobic symptoms when this happens.
Often, the best way to get your confidence back is to once again engage with things that you love doing. For example, you might absolutely adore playing the violin, but you haven’t since your relationship started or since being knocked by the injury. Taking small steps to resume the things that nourished you can go a long, long way.
It’s hard to go through things alone. Often, a problem shared is a problem halved. Even finding an impartial space where you can talk through the issues you’re experiencing can go a long, long way, especially when it comes to simply experiencing talking therapy. Never underestimate the power of getting something off your chest, be that in front of a professional or a close friend.
With these tips, we hope your confidence can be restored.