Thoughts On Funeral Rituals

I attended the funeral of my sister’s father-in-law this morning. Being from a Hindu family they ofcourse observed Hindu rituals, with slight differences than what people in my region observe. It’s been a while since I attended a funeral (for which I consider myself to be lucky); the last being in 2008 for my maternal grandma.

Once again I observed the almost disconnected rituals with seemingly no pause about the individual. These rituals always seem to be …..like followed just because of tradition and no concern over what the person was like. I’m sure its not this way to the believers but to me its a cold way to do a funeral. Rituals handed down from generation to generation and not once thought as to is it what is to be done or not. The only changes they make is they add gas to the fire so the body and funeral pyre wood burns quicker.

I do like the funerals where people speak about the individual who just passed away, share stories and incidents, and fondly remember them before the end of the ceremony. It seems to be the better way to remember the person and say a fond farewell.

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  1. Kerala man who built his own tomb, commits suicide……
    Read more at: http://english.mathrubhumi.com/news/offbeat/kerala-man-who-built-his-own-tomb-commits-suicide-rationalism-1.1865214
    “He feared that a person who had abandoned religion would not be buried at the church graveyard….Hence, he decided to dig one for himself in the courtyard of the house. He wanted to defeat organised religion,’’ said his neighbour, K M Haneefa.
    With the grave ready on the premises of his house, Konur was firm he would not lead a life with the helping hand of another person. He decided to end his life when he became almost bedridden. A suicide note said: “The pain is insufferable. Hence, I am going. Bury my body as per my wish.”
    A day before he decided to kill himself, Konur asked his younger brother to turn up at his house the next morning. A police probe has revealed Konur had telephoned his brother after preparing the hook at the staircase of his house to hang himself. He had also asked a local mason to lift the slab of the grave the next morning. He had not revealed his plan to hang himself that night.

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