Do you find it easy to make new friends? Tell us how you’ve mastered the art of befriending a new person.
Until a few years ago, like maybe 26-27 years of age, I used to be a very open & friendly person. I still am to a certain degree but I no longer have that naive notion that everyone is a friend and that if I am friendly enough, I will be well liked. Since my early 20s I have learned the hard way that people will take advantage of you if you let them, that you can go into situations with the least amount of trepidation, maximum openness and friendliness and with the best of intentions at heart but you will most likely get burned unless you are also equally cautions and skeptical of people and their intentions.
I can’t pretend a stranger is a long awaited friend. He/she might well turn out to be so but that will take it’s own sweet time and if anyone – depending on their nature – wants to be friends and is open and honest, well why not? But I prefer to be careful, take my time in getting to know the person and avoid being taken advantage of or attacked when the chips are down. It’s just the way I see things at the moment and I’m not sorry about it. Yet I can honestly say that I am a very friendly person, only I am a more cautious person than before.
Prompt from the Daily Post at WordPress.com.