A Wrong Turn

Today morning as I was having my coffee and then while in the shower, I was thinking about something. Someone who I am close and quite friendly with has this habit of making fun of my weight. Now, normally I am quite used to it, even if I do get embarrassed, I normally don’t hold a grudge. But this person does it when the both of us meet the new joinees to our company for the very first time. This has happened a couple of times during the last few inductions. I’m sure she has no mean intentions. And I know that I should be used to people making fun of me because I am fat. But I felt bad that it was done on the very first day that we meet the new joinees, some of whom I would be training.

I didn’t say anything the first couple of times but I kept thinking about it today morning. So I typed an email to this person, who is my senior in the company, asking her if that was really necessary and that I didn’t mind if it was front of people I was comfortable with. I got a reply back a little later that the point was noted and that it wouldn’t happen again. But my question is : should I have not said anything? I mean, is that person going to stop being free with me because of this? I dunno if she is, but I have a feeling that it is going to be so.

The thing is, fat people have feelings too.

3 thoughts on “A Wrong Turn

  1. You did the right thing. Your colleague acted inappropriately and if her jibes about yoyr weight are habitual, then that’s even more unacceptable. A sense of awkwardness always creeps in for a bit when you pull someone up for something but it’ll pass. I used to be teased by a colleague about a slight palsy I have in my right hand due to a childhood accident. She used to say things like :’Selma’s been drinking again.’ ‘She keeps bottles of gin in her drawer.’ All that kind of silly stuff made worse by the fact that she said it in front of people I didn’t know.

    The thing is, she didn’t know about the accident I’d had and how serious it was (I was electrocuted – lots of nerve damage) so when I told her she was mortified. For a while it was awkward between us but then she saw sense. I’m sure it’ll be that way for you too. You absolutely did the right thing.

  2. Technodoll – I don’t think she was being rude. Quite the contrary! I really like her a lot but I was being embarrassed in front of strangers.

    Selma – I’m sorry about ur accident.


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